Me VS. We

Are you a “Me” or a “We” person?
Most people would say they are “We” people, but the answer is more action than talk-related. It’s quite uncomfortable to be truthful if we’re a “Me” person, but like the saying goes: “Actions speak louder than words.”
In Network Marketing, it is extremely critical to be a “We” person if we want to experience any kind of success. “Me” people tend to alienate, and eventually, repel others around them. The most simple and straight-forward description for a “Me” person is: selfish and self-centered.
They only think about themselves and their well-beings and any act they engage in to help others is carefully planned. It is usually filled with motives that eventually boomerang back to their self-interests. “Me” people will not help people just for the sake of helping. They will only help if they feel insured that helping will get them what they want. Now who would want to be around people like that…long-term?
“Me” people are users. They use anyone and everyone around them for their own self-interests. These are the kinds of people who will lend you money when you’re in need, but charge you exhorbitant and ridiculous interest rates. Believe it or not, because of their massive and self-centered egos, they feel that in spite of charging these ridiculous terms, they’re helping you out. In short, “Me” people are bad news.
“We” people, on the other hand, are helpful and accommodating. They’re ”local heroes” and leaders who genuinely help because they want to, not because of the ego boost and recognition they will get if they extended a helping hand to someone in need. They care more about others than themselves. A “We” person will jump on top of a grenade to save his or her fellow soldiers than run for his or her own life. Everybody wants to be around a “We” person. They tend to attract everyone around them.
Now, you may ask: “What do I do if, after careful analysis, I discover that I’m a “Me” person?” The most simple answer to that is: change. That’s the only solution to what’s called the CMS (Chronic Me Syndrome). Change your ways and get rid of Mr. or Ms. Ego. It’s never too late for a new beginning…as long as we’re breathing. What’s the point to all of these? What do these have to do with life or Network Marketing? Just everything.
So tell me. Are you a me or a we person?
It is our sole responsibility to recognize who or what we are and immediately make the necessary adjustments to realign ourselves with the laws of man and nature. We only live once and it would be so sad if people celebrated instead of mourned when “the day” finally comes. I once read a quote from Sean Combs that said: “We only live once, but if we live life right, once is enough.” That, in my opinion, is a very powerful philosophy. It could lead to unlimited possibilities and greatness if taken to heart.
Let’s become a “We” person from this day forward. Let’s not even think about it. Let’s just do it. Let’s fascinate ourselves and become a better person, no matter how good we currently are. Let’s live our daily lives to help others, instead of the other way around.
It sounds very simple and practical, but the implementation of this way of life takes a conscious effort. Let’s make it a daily goal to make someone smile. What I have noticed, making someone smile is actually a very selfish act. It makes us feel much better than the person who just broke a smile because of us.
If it’s 11:45pm and we have not met our daily goal of making someone smile yet, approach the first person you see and say: “Excuse me, may I please (don’t forget to say please!) ask a favor from you? It’s really critical and time is short. I haven’t met my goal today of making someone smile and it’s almost 12am. Could you please smile for me?”
I know it’s uncomfortable, but the last time I did that with someone, one thing led to another and that one thing eventually led to a referral for a home sale worth $550,000. Do the math. At 2.5% commission, how much did that uncomfortable feeling and off-the-wall act end up making me? The absolute beauty is I also gained long-term friends in the process.
To create crazy-good results, we have to be willing to do crazy-good things. When we make it a goal to make others happy, that very act will in turn make us happy. It sounds unbelievable, but it’s as real as that monkey swinging from tree to tree in the Amazon. It’s called the good LIFE…or something like it. Make it a great one!
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I love the idea of asking someone to smile –and gosh , yes the rewards are awesome. A great Article. Thanks for sharing.
Brenda
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You’re welcome, Brenda. Thanks for stopping by.
Great post here.
It is all about Teamwork, and you have hit the nail on the head.
Well done!
Michael Harrington recently posted..How do I find Keywords that rank high in Google?
Thanks Michael, definitely all about teamwork. You can be a basketball star but one man can’t make a whole team. It takes team work.
Thanks for your comment Michael. Highly appreciate it.
Great post, Pete! You are so right about the importance of giving, and of those who think that they are helping, when they are clearly not. One example: when I ran for House of Delegates in 2006, the gatekeeper with the key interest group I needed for fundraising said decided to make the group neutral, but he explained that he was doing me a big favor, because he made sure that it was done in such a way that individual groups within the umbrella were free to endorse. However, most of them decided to follow his lead. That’s like “helping” someone by stabbing him/her and making sure that the knife is sterile. In the end, they ended up with someone hostile to their interests, and the “help” that he gave certainly didn’t help.
Steve Nicholas recently posted..Authentic Tithing
Hey Steve, thank you very much for your comment. We highly appreciate. Like we said, it’s all about being a team player. The results would be shocking once we start being that way. Awesome story btw.

Pete Zafra recently posted..Healthy Habits For A Healthy Life Part 3
Yes most of us are Me people, there is time to change for success and the time is now. Wonderful post
GODWIN OKODUWA recently posted..How Attraction marketing leads to success in your MLM business
Thanks for your comment Godwin. We highly appreciate it. We are here to help people and encourage them to do the same selflessly.

Pete Zafra recently posted..Healthy Habits For A Healthy Life Part 3
This reminds me of what I am reading right now in Dales Carnegie’s book…Just be nice and be nice to others also
Thanks for the informative article…
Dean R Black recently posted..Struggling to Build Your Network Marketing Business?
Wow that’s pretty cool. Glad you liked our post. More on the way. Thanks for your comment btw. We highly appreciate it..

Pete Zafra recently posted..Healthy Habits For A Healthy Life Part 3
Great reminder, Pete. It’s similar to the idea from marketing which says you should write in the “you” format. Use “you” a lot instead of “I” or “we”. The copy becomes more friendly and benefit-oriented.
By the way, I like the style/theme of your site. Nice!
Tom Fuszard recently posted..Don’t let a little nervousness get in the way of a great speech
Thanks for your comment Tom. We highly appreciate it!
Agree with you on that. Instead of using the occasional “I” and make it sound like all you do is talk to yourself, say it with a “We” and instead, tell a story.
Thanks Tom!